HOW TO ATTRACT AND KEEP A MAN.

It’s not a difficult task to be the woman every man wants. If you have trouble attracting men and getting a date, you may be unknowingly sending vibes that push men away. Men think differently than women, so you have to understand how the male psyche works in order to get his attention. Know what to do to grab his attention and when you do, you should know that it's not enough to grab his attention, you have to keep him interested.

Men are visual creatures, they get blown away first by what they see and then every other thing can follow. Except you meet online or something, which can actually make a man get blown away by your intellectual capability or knowledge of the world first, a man is first and foremost pleased through their eyes before the rest of their body; even their brain can appreciate a lady. It has nothing to do with how short, tall, slim, curvy or fat you are; different men are interested in different kinds and types of body sizes. In essence, appearance matters a lot.

 Personally, I dress for comfort and wear barely any makeup when I go out; and despite the comfortability it brings, I know I miss out on a lot because the truth is one can meet one’s ‘will of God’ anywhere and if he isn’t attracted to one’s physical appearance, he will barely even get interested in moving closer. Something has got to draw him close. This isn’t me saying you should dress like you’re attending a birthday party to buy noodles across the street. Don’t look like you’re trying too hard but at the same time, tying a wrapper or wearing an ill-fitting gown is not exactly the ideal way to attract a man. 

Wear clothes that compliment your body and accentuate your curves and edges. You don’t have to be the picture of perfection; you just have to at least look like you’re making an effort. A friend and I had a conversation few weeks back and I mentioned that part of the things guys like is a lady who can dress to reflect the amount of money in her man’s bank account; he agreed and said you don’t have to be over the top but you must not be basic either. You don’t have to be slutty to show what you’ve got; most men still think modesty is sexy. We don’t need to hide behind oversized shirts and baggy pants anymore to look presentable. There are dresses, skirts, jeans, and many different kinds of tops that make us all look great. You don’t need to be a skinny size 0 to look attractive. Plus, when we feel great about the way we are dressed, we exude confidence.

Like it is with appearance, a lady with great communication skills is a turn on for men. You’ve got to be able to maintain and hold conversation. Be intelligent. Your look or beauty can only keep a man for a short time if you don’t have the brains to go with the body; it should be a balanced equation. Know at least something about almost everything; you should be able to contribute intelligently to conversations and interactions. Do not limit the width of your knowledge to the latest slangs in town or the most trending topics on twitter and instagram. Show interest in what he does, listen to him, and offer to proffer advices when you can. Don’t let the conversation be one-sided and do not let him be the talker; it’s boring. Be intelligent but do not be a know-it-all. Men like women who have it together and who won’t embarrass them in a conversation; they like women who know something about a lot of different things. It doesn’t have to be politics and sports, it just has to be something you are passionate about and truly understand. And they hate know-it-alls; drop that quality immediately. you have to be careful while doing this though; a little mysteriousness doesn't hurt. A huge part of attracting men is letting them figure you out. Don't talk his ear off about every detail of your life or your feelings. Carefully think about what you say and don't fill the conversation with idle gabbing. Also, don't make yourself available all the time. Allow him to wonder where you are and what you're doing. 

And talking about intelligence, let’s talk about communication. Do not be difficult. If he doesn’t have to worry about misunderstanding you or knowing what you want, your guy will be happier. A guy enjoys a lady who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to tell him. He’s not psychic. I believe guys love straightforward ladies, he can’t know what you’re thinking all of time and gets confused when you become upset for something that could have easily been resolved with proper communication. If you can’t tell him that you want him to do something, or that you don’t like something, he won’t know. 

   

For as long as I remember, men have been expected to pay for the date, buy expensive gifts and are expected to drop some money to woo the girl. Ladies, it’s 2017; a time for equal opportunities and responsibilities. A financially independent woman is an empowered woman. Guys enjoy ladies who can pay their own finances and take charge of their own spending with little help from guys when necessary. A guy doesn’t have to sacrifice his savings to impress you. Therefore, if you are a money grabber, it’s a huge turnoff for a potential boyfriend. Give and take is key to the perfect balance in such a relationship.

Be free with him. I’m not saying it’s abnormal to be nervous around him, it absolutely is but at the same time, do not shrink into yourself in his presence. I believe guys love ladies who are active and can do things with them. Play around and do not pretend to be Miss formal. I don’t think any guy likes a high maintenance girl who would flinch with every sound, frown at every joke, think too much before laughing, overthink simple actions, scared to get dirt under their nails, screech like a banshee when their phone drops or get grossed out with a small speck of dust or stain on their cloth. Nothing feels more liberating than letting it all go. Note that while doing this, it's easy to appear desperate. Men are attracted to the thrill of the chase, so if you're chasing after him, you're taking away the challenge. Keep it low-key and keep him on the edge of his seat. Maintain your composure. Your outward indifference may make him want you more.

Another think I think is worth mentioning is that you must be able to adapt to any situation. Just go with the flow. You should be able to fit in anywhere with ease: party, boring hangouts, movie dates, football matches. Maybe at a point, guys really liked hard to get ladies but these days, darling if you like him, go for him. You should be able to go with the flow; take the leap and enjoy all moments. Men love a woman who has her own life with fun and different things happening. No man wants a girl who is always sitting at home waiting for him or a woman who needs him to provide 100 percent of the fun. Finally, do not attempt to fill up all the spaces in his life, he had friends before he met you; do not take him away from them. Then I believe it gives a guy much joy to know that you like his friends and can get along with them very well. Do not keep tabs on him and let him feel shackled by how much you’re tailing him about. You don’t own him; let him have a life outside what he has with you.

Again, it’s not a difficult task to be the woman every man wants, get one attracted to you, and keep him. So boost your confidence, wear nicer clothes, do not form, let your independent side show, allow yourself to get dirty and free, take charges once in awhile, don’t take him away from people  and let your communication flow but most importantly, DO NOT FORGET YOURSELF and do not give it all for someone who wouldn’t give half of a quarter to you.