BECOMING THE BEST VERSION OF YOU
The ability to make peace with the world very much depends on our ability to make peace with ourselves. The truth is all relationships go through a phase of transition between conflict, its resolution, love, romance, maintaining a balance, maintaining the friendship and a load of baggages that comes with being in a relationship.
The problem however arises when we see these changes as threatening or frustrating.It is necessary to know that when you're dating someone, you bring withyou a lot of personal values, mentalities, goals, expectations and challenges. Your partner is not in any way responsible for the way you were raised, your past relationships, your belief systems and the way you see yourself. The most important thing is for us all to learn to adjust to changes... accept the fact that either good or bad, you partner cannot be everything your ex was. The idea is to learn through repeated experiences with ppl;what to expect and not to expect in all relationships because most times, expectations may not be all that important in the grand scheme of things. Just look for that thing that is worth holding on to andadjust because of that thing.If you find yourself going through a hard time in your relationship, take a pause and look at the big picture... look at your personals faults and shortcomings that could be contributing to the downturn of your relationship...yes! you can communicate your needs with your partner but adjust, work on yourself and your attitude.
A relationship is a two-people thing...and a one sided compromise isn't part of it. Do not label and judge everything your partner does and doesn't do, look at the things you can do differently. Your partner cannot always apologise, he/she can't always be the only one to make efforts on getting things right... no one is a fool and ppl get tired when you aren't showing the same level of enthusiasm to a cause.Finally, learn to put the 'WE' before the 'ME'. It helps a lot...and maybe, just maybe if all of us become better selves, we can attract better nexts.
The problem however arises when we see these changes as threatening or frustrating.It is necessary to know that when you're dating someone, you bring withyou a lot of personal values, mentalities, goals, expectations and challenges. Your partner is not in any way responsible for the way you were raised, your past relationships, your belief systems and the way you see yourself. The most important thing is for us all to learn to adjust to changes... accept the fact that either good or bad, you partner cannot be everything your ex was. The idea is to learn through repeated experiences with ppl;what to expect and not to expect in all relationships because most times, expectations may not be all that important in the grand scheme of things. Just look for that thing that is worth holding on to andadjust because of that thing.If you find yourself going through a hard time in your relationship, take a pause and look at the big picture... look at your personals faults and shortcomings that could be contributing to the downturn of your relationship...yes! you can communicate your needs with your partner but adjust, work on yourself and your attitude.
A relationship is a two-people thing...and a one sided compromise isn't part of it. Do not label and judge everything your partner does and doesn't do, look at the things you can do differently. Your partner cannot always apologise, he/she can't always be the only one to make efforts on getting things right... no one is a fool and ppl get tired when you aren't showing the same level of enthusiasm to a cause.Finally, learn to put the 'WE' before the 'ME'. It helps a lot...and maybe, just maybe if all of us become better selves, we can attract better nexts.
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